The Girls and Parenthood
“I always thought this part of my life was supposed to be for ME.”
Blanche said this on The Golden Girls’ “Second Motherhood” episode in the first season. In a nutshell, she meets a man (shocker) who has significantly younger children than hers, and believes he’s really just looking for a mother for his kids as opposed to a companion for himself.
While I can’t relate to having gone through 20+ years of parenthood, at this point I can completely appreciate the need for a break every once in a while to reconnect with yourself. I can only speak from my own experience, but I do know that there is absolutely a sense of identity loss (or at least, a long pause) that happens when a baby comes along. For some, I imagine it’s not a big deal. For someone like me who has always been incredibly independent with a strong personality, that was (and at times, still is) pretty challenging. For this reason, trips like the one I look last week to Los Angeles are so unbelievably necessary.
I was there for 3 days total, but 2.5 was where we did all our walking/touring/eating/seeing things and I had such a good time. Most importantly, I got to see the original Golden Girls house in Brentwood:
We obviously also went to see Betty White’s star (duh.) It was so great to see it in person, just one time to know that I did.
I don’t think people realize how much I love that show, and therefor don’t get how these two little things can make my entire week, or month, or year. I really don’t need a lot of hoopla or crazy nights; just a few people who are great company, Golden Girls references and I’m pretty much set!
This time in my life may not fully be for me, but it’s nice to know that every once in a while I can get away to reconnect with friends, make new memories and most importantly, reconnect with myself. I encourage anyone and everyone to do that whether it’s to take a short trip, an overnight in hotel down the block from your house or a walk every day. Parenthood is hard, but if we can take a moment every once in a while to put the focus on us, it might make this parenthood thing a little easier.
In friendship and cheesecake,