Rose's Almost Adventure
On Friday one of my most Golden of Gals, Devon, and I were recording an episode of our Golden Girls podcast that we hope to launch this summer (more on that in another post.) We were discussing the episode Rose's Big Adventure and while we talked about many things, one thing that I found odd was the anticlimactic way in which Rose and Al confessed their love for each other for the first time. (If you haven't seen it and want a really quick synopsis, see below.*)
I've previously explored what the Golden Girls taught us about love, but I couldn't help but notice that this huge milestone was eclipsed by the fact that Al confesses that he can't take their boat trip around the world in light of the fact that he gets seasick! For realz?! You two reach this significant point in your relationship and yet, the main focus of this conversation is that Al can't be on a boat without yacking? I'm just sayin'!
In my experience and for many people I know, this particular step in a relationship is pretty huge and can definitely be scary (the confession of love, not motion sickness just to be clear.) But is it definitely as huge for everyone? Do some people just see it as part of being in a relationship?
I know people, especially at a young age, who moved in together very quickly and did not stay together. It boggled my mind at the time because I never considered living together to just be something you did, like going to the movies. Maybe it boggled my mind because at the time, there was no one I could see committing to on that level. Maybe I knew deep down that we just weren't right for one another and I didn't want to take that risk because my gut was telling me it wasn't meant to be for the long term. Maybe I was too much of a realist and less of a romantic but to me, moving in together was a huge deal and so was saying the L word.
I do think it's logical if the timeframe gets shorter between relationship milestones as we come into adulthood and gain a better sense of who we are and what we want. That's just experience, isn't it?
That being said, does everything around relationships become less of a big deal once you've had as much life experience as Rose and Al? I wonder, if two people start a relationship in their sixties and one confesses love far sooner than the other, would that person get as freaked out as people seem to when they're say, in their late twenties? Or do they just kind of think, "Meh, I care for this person and I've been here before. This is a great companion for me and I know love will grow from this."
If you have any thoughts on this, please let me know!
In friendship and cheesecake,
*In a nutshell, Rose is dating Al who has just retired and she convinces him to take a risk. For him, this means spending all his savings getting a boat and a crew to sail around the world, and he invites Rose to go with him. All the love and motion sickness unfolds at the send off party. Now you're caught up.