Get it, Sophia (and you too!)
We all know that the Golden Girls were feminist role models. I've written about how I believe Blanche Devereaux to be an unapologetic, sexual woman who goes after what she wants. Her confidence and zeal for men, especially in her day, make her a woman I definitely look up to. I wonder had I grown up in the 50s or 60s (or even earlier), would I hold the liberal views I have today? Or would I be considered liberal then and only "moderate" today? I'd like to think that I'd be just as curious and open to different people, life choices and social behavior as I am now and therefor, encouraging of women taking control and owning their sexuality.
The topic of sex was discussed frequently on the Golden Girls. Even Sophia, an 80+ year old woman, had her share of suitors and sexual encounters. The one above, for example, is her trying to make a move on Marvin, a dude whom she found through the personals and is trying to give him the green light to get the party started.
Back in the day (and even today to some extent), any type of physical interaction early on in dating was usually frowned upon. It most certainly was frowned upon when it comes to the woman in a straight relationship making a move, and still is today to some extent. That's why I'm so psyched for Sophia in this scenario; she's going after what she wants and essentially handing Marvin the go-ahead on a silver platter because she wants to get busy! I mean, the freakin' put his hand ON HER CHEST! A++ for ballsiness, Sophia!
Admittedly, I have not "dated" in over a decade and I stopped just shy of when online dating really took off so I'm not able to speak to that experience. (Does anyone meet organically out in public spaces anymore? I mean, does that ever happen? That's all I remember about dating: I either met people through other people or cold in a bar.) However, as I got deeper into my 20s and gained more experience around communication, it became very clear to me that just telling someone exactly what I wanted in any capacity was far more productive and less prone to misunderstandings than waiting for the other person to guess. Undoubtedly, this is also why I am SO feeling Sophia's vibe.
I know people today who feel men should make the first move, who make negative associations with a woman who experiences anything physical with someone she may have just met (be it that week or that night), and have what I consider to be pretty dated views on women, dating and sexuality in general. I challenge that horse manure because times are different, and they're different for the better! I'm sure if gender roles had been different to start off that there would be much less shame thrown on women who just want what feels natural; and sometimes that could be purely physical to start off (or always be purely physical! Who the hell am I to judge?) So whatever works for you and dating, DO YOU, BOOS!
Let's all take a moment to honor Sophia Petrillo: feminist and hanky panky go-getter who was way ahead of her time!
In friendship and cheesecake,