What the Girls taught us about jumping to conclusions
Rose: Do you think Blanche has been picking on me lately?
Dorothy: I haven't noticed.
(Blanche enters the kitchen.)
Rose: Hi Blanche!
Blanche: Must you always be so cheerful you empty-headed, Mary Poppins knockoff?
Rose (to Dorothy, as she's leaving): Let me know if you notice anything.
In the episode Larceny and Old Lace, Blanche finds Rose's diary. In it, she finds that Rose has written some scathing comments and frustrations having to do with her living situation, specifically with those with whom she shares her home. Due to the fact that she knows that she should not have read Rose's diary, she does not confront Rose but rather finds any other way to insult her and passive aggressively express her emotions.
We come to find out that the diary Rose kept was written years prior when she was trying to achieve a 4H Pig Diary badge, and wrote about raising and living with pigs (as opposed to Blanche's interpretation of Rose describing she and Dorothy.) Had Blanche come clean and found out the real story from the beginning there would have been much less conflict.
While not quite the same situation, recently Courtney of the YouTube Stay Golden web series shared with me a humorous comment someone left regarding one of her recent ranking episodes where she wore the shirt you see above. The commenter, clearly looking for any excuse to pick a fight on the topic, let his knee-jerk response to the word "intrauterine" leave a rather foolish comment, claiming that Courtney shouldn't be using the Golden Girls to push any particular message. (Personally, when she told me I had a good laugh because of the lunacy of the situation.) Had this person a) Actually been a die hard fan, and b) Once accepting that he was not in fact a die hard fan and didn't understand the reference, reached out to Courtney privately to ask her to explain the reference (which I'm sure she would have happily done,) he would not have looked so foolish. She still handled it like a champ.
Sometimes we may react impulsively because something is in the forefront of our mind and instead of talking to someone about it, we jump at any opportunity to get it off our chest. Sometimes we may not even know what's bothering us to begin with, or perhaps we have a more passive aggressive way of dealing with expressing what we're feeling and beat around the bush, using opportunities around the one we're focused on in hopes of getting our point across.
My takeaway from this episode and from Courtney's experience is that unless something is blatantly stated as one thing and it elicits a reaction from you, take a moment to make sure that what you're interpreting it what is being presented.
In friendship and cheesecake,