Put YOU first
Blanche: In this case I, I'm gonna put me first.
Sophia: Oooh, now there's a radical shift in priorities!
We all know that saying about putting on your own oxygen mask before helping others, yadda yadda yadda. It's definitely true because really, what good are you to anyone if you're not taking care of yourself? Granted, Blanche goes a little extreme in her interpretation of this idea but in general, I think it's the way to go.
This concept got me to thinking about the things in my daily life that I have consciously and subconsciously put into my mental "luxury" folder. (Ya'll have a filing system like this in your head, more or less, yeah?)
Here are some things that I file under essential (be it consciously or subconsciously):
- Basic grooming (shower, brush teeth, wash face, etc.)
- Hugs/Displays of affection (not necessarily in public, but okay with that)
- Mom's PPD/PPA group/mental health care
- Minimal makeup
- Hair in messy, high bun
Here are some things that I file under luxury/not essential but preferable (be it consciously or subconsciously):
- Full face of makeup (although some days this is debatable)
- Special coffee drinks (i.e. latte, Americano)
- Washing, blow drying and styling my hair (Buck up, Hill. There's still a shot in Hell this will happen daily some day.)
Yeah, about that last one...I finally admitted to myself that I clearly put EXERCISE in my luxury category. Can you believe that? Something I do for my physical and mental health and it somehow gets put in the luxury folder.
That's freakin' bananas.
I manage to find the time for the trip to my local bagel shop for my favorite hazelnut coffee a few mornings a week. I make that shit happen.
If I'm not doing the same for exercise it clearly isn't a priority. Anyone else care to admit this? Bueller?
But let's back up for a moment. It has become more difficult for me to figure out how to prioritize something like exercising with a newborn. This is likely because I'm expecting it to look the way it did before he was here and quite frankly, keeping him alive kind of trumps exercise. So how can I put myself first when it comes to exercise if this little human is a temporary appendage for me right now?
When life throws big changes your way you have to constantly re-prioritize yourself as well as recalibrate in your mind what that looks like for your life.
That picture was taken in the midst of my Brooklyn Half Marathon training in spring of 2017. I keep thinking that's what my exercise routine should look like, but it can't with a baby.
Yesterday I went for a walk around the 'hood with the munchkin instead of going for a run on my own. Will I be able to go solo again? Sure, but right now he's with me much of the time and I need to factor him into my exercise routine. And that's a routine that I need to re-prioritize myself in my current circumstance.
I guess (within reason!) Blanche was right!
In friendship and cheesecake,